KEEPING DISTANCE FROM TOXIC PEOPLE

Have you ever asked yourself whom you are afraid of? Whom are you threatened the most? Or who do you want to distance yourself from? Clearly, the answer will be the bad people. We tend to be scared most, be threatened, and avoid bad people. However, these people do not only define by physical threat; they could be classified as someone who could bring you emotional detriment.

Let me tell you, most of the time; these people are the closest person to you; they could be your friend, a classmate, a neighbor, or even a family. How will you know if they are already causing you a mischief? Simply, when you start to feel uneasy and uncomfortable with their presence, it could be a sign that they are putting you in a pickle. Moreover, if this person tells you unsolicited advice, like when they are telling you to change your body or if this person is causing you emotionally, physically, and spiritually stress. Or when this person always has to be correct, dishonest, manipulative, doubts, judges, or tells lies about you. These may signify that this person is toxic and is putting you under the weather.

Hence, the best you can do is to cut contact with these people; you can block them or avoid them. Yes, it may be a needle in a haystack because they may be your friend or a family, but you have to understand that they are not healthy for you. After all, your emotional and mental health is the ones that matter. You can also find happiness within you, find something you love, find a new hobby, something where you can think clearly and reflect. Additionally, you must change your environment and find your common ground by surrounding yourself with people with the same beliefs and ideologies as you. Choose the person you open yourself up to, study the people around you, and let go of the negative relationships.

However, you must remember that toxic people will always be a part of life. So, learning how to handle them in everyday situations will prevent them from having an impact on your life. It’s best if you limit your interactions with them and limit the amount of personal information your share with them. Focus on keeping company with positive and inspirational people because they can make a difference in your life.

“If we surround ourselves with people who are successful, who are forward-moving, who are positive, who are focused on producing results, who support us, it will challenge us to be more and do more and share more. If you can surround yourself with people who will never let you settle for less than you can be, you have the greatest gift that anyone can hope for.” — Tony Robbins.

By: Leila Bation